After spending the past 3 weeks wondering what was going on with baby #2, had first prenatal appt with ultrasound.
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no baby.....
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Spent this week in surgery and then wear a brave face while attempting to face the world. Relatives know and only 2 of them have offered condolences. Spoke with one relative today that knows and I get nothing - as though nothing happened; as though I don't matter.
I didn't necessarily expect to be showered with attention, nor do I want that, however it would be nice to have our loss acknowledged. After all, she gets a fucking card if she has the sniffles.....
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Oh, hell. I remember when I went back to work after our first m/c at 16 wks and people avoided me.
The first time I got together with my mom and sisters after the same m/c, they acted as if I had never been pregnant.
I found out that one of my fellow-employees suggested to others to not talk about it. My mom told my sisters not to bring it up.
People for some reason think it's better to not talk about it, thinking it brings more pain. It's such a ridiculous concept b/c would you ever not offer your thoughts to a friend who lost their husband or parent??
I'm truly sorry.
I'm sorry that was me. Grrr.
Thanks.
I can see not dwelling on it, but nothing makes you feel more inadequate than not being able to carry to term much less people not wanting to talk to you about it, even if only to say sorry or send a card. At least to me anyway.
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